Julie G-of course my priority are my children, but they will spend 14 nights out of the month with dad, am I just supposed to sit at home those 14 nights and plan activities for them when I see them again? hmm Candice- My kids are doing great actually because up until wed night we had been working as a hell of a team to make sure that their feelings were put first.My daughter has no idea my ex wants nothing to do with her now, she was not there to hear him say that and I do not plan on telling her either.You already have four girls by two men, including a 12 year old with a 17 year old boyfriend. Having men over to your house while you're still married may or may not be "right" but I imagine it's not going to look good in the eyes of the law when it comes to custody and visitation. While the marriage may seem dead and buried to you, this has apparently been a shock to your husband and probably your kids too.Don't you think you need to slow down a minute and think about the kind of example you are setting for your daughters? Never mind how it looks to your kids: "oh I'm done with daddy now, too bad for him, boo hoo, I wanna start hooking up, I can't even wait a whole month! I find it absolutely insane that you are entertaining thoughts of a new social life - or dating life - a little over a month after leaving your husband. Have some respect for that and give them some time to process the changes.And where were your kids when he came over, anyway?
I am not so lonely that I need to fill my empty night with a "new boyfriend" as you put it, he is a friend,, I was having diner with a friend.
It's fine to go out and burn some stress with your girlfriends but to befriend a single guy? Heck, give yourself some time to process everything.
Step one would be to actually file for divorce and get a separation agreement filed with court so that whatever your husband "owes" you in terms of child support isn't arbitrary.
Christylee- I can see how how having a guy friend over a month after splitting up may raise some eyebrows, I can see it. And no he did not bring the kids with him, he left them asleep with his mom who is in town visiting. You are totally free when you have the divorce decree.
Until then even if you are ready to move on in every other way, you are still legally tied to someone else.