Marriage is a challenge in the best of circumstances and takes a lot of work to make it successful.
Both partners need, and deserve, to be loved unconditionally.
Who among us is without sin and can “cast the first stone”?
Before coming to Christ, each of us is “dead in transgressions and sins” and is made alive only by God’s grace (Ephesians 2:1-5). Jesus said if we don’t forgive, neither will God forgive us (Matthew -15).
Willing sacrifice and the strength to choose to be a servant to the betterment of the marriage are the marks of a maturing spiritual man and woman who honor God.When we begin to understand what it means to be truly forgiven, we begin to see through God's eyes and how much He must love us, and that helps us forgive others.To forgive is to let go of the other person’s past and see him or her as a new creation (2 Corinthians ).Wisely choosing a spouse based upon biblical qualities is important, but of equal importance are our own ongoing spiritual growth and our surrender to God's will in our lives.A man who is seeking to be the man God wants him to be will be able to help his wife be the woman God desires her to be and, despite their pasts, they will be able to build their marriage into a God-honoring union that delights them both.While God puts our sins as far from us as the east is from the west when we come to Him in repentance and faith in Christ (Psalm 1), people have long memories and forgetting someone’s past may not be easy.The inability to forgive and forget the past mistakes of one of the marriage partners will definitely influence the marriage negatively.Speaking with a godly pastor and being involved in a Bible-teaching church will help in the decision-making process.Some churches have excellent pre-engagement classes. Also, talking freely and openly with the potential mate about these things may reveal things in both parties’ pasts that need to be addressed and forgiven.Before entering a marriage with someone with a sexual past, it’s crucial to understand that salvation and forgiveness of sin are given to us by grace."By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, that no one should boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9).