The friends I have made with other doctors' wives during the years in medical school, intern year, and now residency have become near life-lines for me. We are involved in such different activities every day, and our worries and problems could not possibly be more different.
Of course we love each other, we love our children, and we are unified in our desire to have a strong family and serve the community we live in.
TRADITIONS Our religious beliefs and traditions we have either continued from our own families or began with our children became even more vital during my husband's medical residency. We discuss values, concerns, applications of lessons found in the scriptures.
DATE NIGHT Time and communication are essential for a strong, medical marriage. Even during our pre-med years, we went out on a date together every single weekend.
But, sometimes it feels like even our common goals are intangible and quite distant.
One thing that we decided to do before we started medical school was become involved together in a hobby. It immediately became a ton of fun for us and continues to be an exciting part of our relationship together.
Her granddaughter replied, "It's okay, Grandma, I usually feel better after ten or 15 minutes." Remember this when you are upset about something. Usually we actually do feel better after an hour or two, or even a day.
FLEXIBILITY During his intern year, my husband discovered that his night's sleep was virtually undisturbed by our 6-month-old and 2-year-old if he slept in our guest bedroom.