If your gal was in a significantly serious relationship, she probably needs more time to mend her broken heart. If your lady friend still talks about so-and-so incessantly, you are definitely her rebound guy.
Of course, there should be some conversation about their relationship and what happened to it, but it should be minimal.
But maybe the worst part of it is that you can't really fault the person that's using you to rebound. You can't have a rebound without missing a shot in the first place, so to speak. Some people, for whatever reason, need to be paired up with someone at all times, which means they almost instinctively grab someone after a bad breakup.
Unlike other "relationship crimes," they're likely not even doing it consciously. Now, he might be dealing with a recent breakup, but that doesn't mean you're a "rebound." But it's smart to proceed with caution. That's the kind of relationship someone can't quit cold turkey. If there's a pattern, it's unlikely you're breaking the mold.4. or maybe it's just that he feels too comfortable with you.
In an effort to recreate the emotional security felt in their previous relationship, women will carry on a sexual and/or emotional affair and create what I like to call a “pseudo-relationship.” The rebound relationship is constructed by pure selfishness, knitted together by underhanded motives.
No matter which way you spin it, rebound relationships never replace true intimacy, but it’s easy for women to convince themselves otherwise.
It's almost as if he can't let go of how things used to be.
It's just a combination of unfortunate timing and the fact that you're available and they're vulnerable. There's no reason to automatically discount a guy just because he had a girlfriend a month ago. Is there a slightly higher chance the milk is going to make you sick and also fuck its ex-girlfriend when she booty calls it one night? You heard his last relationship was incredibly serious. Did he date someone for a few months and things fizzled out? Does it almost feel as if he never left the old relationship?
Keep in mind that just because you came into the picture right after a particularly vicious breakup doesn't mean your relationship is doomed in the slightest. It's like drinking milk one day past the expiration date. It's probably not so damaging that he needs to rebound from it in the first place. If he's basically trying to act like things are serious less than a month in and constantly sleeping over (or expecting you to do the same), it might be because he's having a hard time relearning boundaries. He's got a major event coming up that he needs a date to.
If it’s been less than three months, slow your roll. ” A woman is in no condition to enter a new relationship after a mere 30 days.
Three months is not a long time, although it may feel like forever when you’re recovering from a breakup. She’s probably still plotting revenge at that point.