Cybersex encounters, says Ted, last 30 minutes, sometimes even an hour or two, depending on how long sex-chat mates want to extend their play.
There are instances when he does not do one-on-one encounters and just extensively flirts with multiple sex-chatters (some lead to "SOP" or sex on phone), lasting until the early morning.
Questions like these may crop up in their mind: What right has he to talk about this matter? I had to reckon with two things in preparing for this ethical discourse on cybersex: first, the actual engagement in online sex as a challenge I had to face to be able to gain insights from concrete experience, and second, the search for the best framework to ethically evaluate this new sexual phenomenon.That series gave a clear picture of how cybersex manifests itself in the country.Though written some years ago, the insights there are still valid.The following is a summary of one of the cybersex stories featured in that series.1This is the story of Ted, 27 years old and single, who works as an information technology professional in Makati.While most young urban professionals spend their Friday evenings "malling" and bar-hopping, Ted spends hours and hours dragging and clicking to his favorite chat rooms.Ted smirks and replies: "It’s OK, nothing really happens, it’s just a pastime." Ted’s story is only one of the myriad stories relative to cybersex in the Philippines.4Cybersex or online sex is a social interaction of at least two persons engaging in real time digital messages or live camera feed conversations to become sexually aroused and satisfied.In a broad sense, cybersex involves many sexual activities related to computer technology.Cybersexual activity can take many different forms: downloading sexually explicit pictures or stories, engaging in extensive explicit e-mail exchanges, viewing sexually explicit videos through pornographic sites, looking at or providing vastly changing images through a web cam, conversing in a sexually explicit chat room that may be a general room or a private one, and participating in instant communication with other web users for the purpose of sharing sexual fantasies, sometimes culminating in cybersex, phone sex, or an actual sexual encounter.5Cybersex has to be situated within the revolution which the Internet has brought about in sexuality.Internet is changing patterns of social communication and interpersonal relationships.Inside sex chat rooms, from Ted’s experience, moral conventions are thrown out the window.Cybersex begins with erotic exchanges of words flashed on the computer screen. The wildest of sexual fantasies are realized through creative erotic verbal exchanges where real-world boundaries are surpassed especially by the most playful of minds.