I would have a hard time not divorcing and she would have her work cut out for her trying to convince me to give her another chance.
I think either gender doing this is very stupid and self destructive.
However, depending on the person, I might give them one chance to explain. How would you react if you found out that your wife had an active account on a dating and/or cheating site?
You would expect any otherwise decent person to react to this being discovered by deleting the account, showing remorse and never doing it again, showing that it wasn't for a bad purpose, it wasn't supposed to hurt the partner, and it did, so they won't risk doing it again.Personally, I am pretty hardcore and thick skinned as well as confident.The thing that would really bother me was the secrecy.HGTV and Lifetime Network are dedicated to providing entertainment to women.A woman would only maintain an active account on a dating/sex site to be approached and propositioned by other men. I can think of a reason or two otherwise, but those would be very rare.As always, the more worthy of being in a relationship you become, the more you can recognize when someone else isn't. How would you react if you found out that your wife had an active account on a dating and/or cheating site?How would you react if she said that she had no intent to cheat but was just there for entertainment?If she wanted to do or try anything or was just curious and wanted to talk about fantasies, she should have been open with me and had me be her partner she made vows with.I wouldn't go for swinging or even tempting fate by playing with a site but she should have talked to me about it before even considering doing anything.Now that I'm divorced, in any future relationship I would move right to dissolution."I was on a sex site/at the bar/at the club/on a single's cruise/ at the speed dating venue etc for a single friend..." Has been used by married women to explain their presence on dating sites and meat-market clubs since caveman days. When married women are doing all the legwork and are at all the single venues "for a single friend", it is just a smoke screen for their own searching.To come back to that site the next day means she is either on the market or is an attention ***** that needs constant ego strokes and validation from other men; and even, with 100 offers a day coming in, eventually she'd get an offer she wouldn't refuse. It doesn't matter if it's online, or IRL - it's still the same goal: attention. My ex wife went through something like this when she lost some weight and got fit. I would be bothered if she had an account, but I would not immediately conclude that she's looking to mess around.