You think about having kids, raising a family, sharing lots of romantic adventures together. That will only happen IF he/she likes you, IF you continue to like him/her, IF you decide to have a baby, etc. This does NOT mean that you should maintain relationships with other people “in case you broke up”. I’m talking about what you would do if you were completely alone.There are just so many things that can change that particular possibility. All your planning has been focused on the two of you being together, so when the unexpected happens, you have no alternate plan! Say there were no people in the world, what would you do?You won’t feel the “my life is coming to an end” type of pain. Even if there are people around, you can still be alone.Aren’t those situations of you being alone completely unlikely though? In fact, outside of very involved relationships, you are alone most of the time.Are you staying up all night wondering if he/she feels the same way you do? Pretty much everyone has been in this situation at one time or another.Here’s why: The root of all pain like this comes from your imagination and an uncertainty about what to do.This is when people sit at home crying, blaming the other person for not fulfilling their dreams. Now say there were 2 people in the world, what would you do?
You’ll probably still feel a bit hurt, but it won’t be the end of the world because you’ll have a life outside of the relationship.
What happens when he/she does something different from how you’d imagined? You’ll either feel hurt that he/she isn’t doing what you want “anymore”, and perhaps try to change that person (which will not be well received).
So, to start off, try to not imagine what it’d be like, or how good it would be.
Whenever you are focusing on yourself and don’t notice other people, it’s the same as if you were alone.
Knowing what you’d do in this situation really helps you out in figuring out what you want.