In addition to his other health problems at the time, he was dying. But I have anxiety and the thought of spending a couple of hours with someone I don’t know is enough to give me the sweats. I have a few guys who are sort of vying for my affection (jeez that feels self-important to type). Dear Carolyn: I was talking with my wife, her brother and her mother, and the subject of DNA tests came up.My wife and her brother both said they were thinking about sending in a DNA test for their ancestry.To make friends, you have to be brave enough to risk a bid for intimacy, understanding that (in your neighborhood) your invitation for coffee might be misconstrued to be a franchise opportunity. You volunteered to take on this task, and you never followed up to let people know how you would like to handle paying for the shirts.
She throws her invitations into the air, hoping for a 30 percent acceptance rate.
It is also possible that she likes you and thinks of you as a friend, but is numb to the intimacy that graduation celebrations generally reflect. Or, since I volunteered, am I totally responsible for the cost?
You never mention making any social inroads, yourself. I volunteered to order all the T-shirts, without any discussion or agreement on payment. I have no problem absorbing the cost, but some family members insist on paying for their shirts, while some have stayed mum. DEAR CONFUSED: I don’t see this as an etiquette question, so much as a communication issue.
If some offer or insist on paying, it would be generous of you to donate that money to offset some other reunion costs.
DEAR AMY: “Disapproving Wife” didn’t like the fact that her husband was giving a local homeless man (who claimed to be dying) a beer every day. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or “like” her on Facebook.