Do you know what uplifts you and what depletes you?
"Strang has a method for how to clearly and explicitly figure out what boundaries work for you.
Strang says, "Often, when boundary concerns come up in a partnership, it opens the space for greater communication and understanding of one another, and the opportunity to grow deeper into love and respect and intimacy by honoring these boundaries."So, for example, you might have a partner who wants to hang out every single day, while you are someone who values private time.
That does not mean you don't love your partner less than they adore you, but it indicates a personality difference where you require a little bit more time for self-care.
However, I believe that people will treat you how you treat yourself, and proper boundaries are indicative of good self-esteem and self-respect. In fact, they can just be small reminders that show someone how you expect to be treated.
If you grow up without any kind of rules or regulations, it's hard to enforce them as an adult.
"Write [them] down, review it regularly, get clear about why your boundaries are important to you and are worth upholding.
Self-inquiry and self-knowledge about what is true for you is the first step to healthy boundaries," she says.
Boundaries don't begin when you start dating someone else; they actually begin within yourself."It's also important to note that in any relationship, boundary concerns will arise.
It's part of getting to know [one] another and connecting at a deeper level," Strang concludes.