However, these things are not a good to lead in your profile.Here are examples that are very common: Do you think a guy 40 who wants to enjoy his own life equally with a partner will have a desire to contact you and cheer you up?
Leave it where it belongs: 5, 10 or 20 years ago at the door.What you need to do is to remove any baggage you have (it’s all in your head and its negative) and instead write how you will add positively to both of your lives and describe how you enjoy yourself.Keep all the heavy things for later ( later), when you have taken time to know each other.Oh, I forgot, you go on to say you look forward to finding a man for a long-term relationship. I have even seen statements from 40 women who write these “full life” daily exploits and then say: “I don’t need a man but it would be nice to have one in my life”, or “I will make room for the right man.” The issue here is you show no need (it’s also not good to be too needy), so where can he see himself fitting into your life?Surely, if you are looking for a partner, your best approach here is to make it feel like he can be a contributor to your life and be needed.Let’s face it, meeting men is hard, especially if you are over 40. Your circle of friends is either the same it’s been for years, or post-divorce you are now creating new friendships. For those of you in your 40s or 50s who are recently divorced, widowed, or just eager to re-partner, dating again can be daunting.Perhaps it’s been a while since you’ve been “on the market”.You’ve come this far: You and your guy connected online, emailed a few times, spoke on the phone and now it’s time for your “meet date.” You are compatible in the virtual world. Now it’s time to see how it goes in the real world. Better than when you are 18 and hot to trot, better than in your 20s when you didn’t know yourself from a hot rock or your 30s, when your…As we get older the men-to-women ratio moves more and more in favour of men.Clearly at 40 for both men and women what you have to offer as a partner is less needy and shows you’re a proper independent adult.This will make you greatly more attractive and you will see a huge change in the quality of men contacting you. Remember, the man on the other side does not know yet, so stop sounding needy.