These things usually determine whether or not a Bisexual or Pansexual becomes sexually attracted to another individual, be they male or female, their gender is, allegedly, largely irrelevant. Yet men, due to toxic masculinity, will rarely ever admit that fact.
Society has forced men to exist in a very small box. They must be steadfast and committed to their overt, often overcompensation of their Cisgender heterosexual preferences.
Suffice it to say, a Transwoman is not a Transvestite.
A Transvestite is a CISgender male who dresses as a woman for sexual gratification.
They hypersexualize their appearance; A Transwoman presents as the gender they are in spite of their birth assigned gender. They don’t disrobe, like Transvestites do, and put on a suit and tie on Monday after spending Saturday night in heels, and go sell car insurance as a male.Women are far more capable of looking past the body and into the eyes of a prospective lover.They simply do not prioritize the act of sex over the emotional satisfaction of a compatible partner.Rejected because our bodies do no not often align with our presentation and therefore, we’re alienated entirely from exhibiting a sexual desire or being a sexual human?Being the object of sexual desire is not problem; I have a phone full of people who are asking to be “Friends with Benefits” or are “Married but curious” or “Straight looking for TV/TG/TS” — TV being a Transvestite, not the mechanism on which you watch Supernatural reruns and salivate over Jenson Ackles.I know some women who allow their boyfriends/husbands to solicit encounters from same sex partners on hook-up apps. For some heterosexual couples, these extramarital or trysts outside the relationship keep temptations controlled, but adequately satiated.They usually have rules of respect, such as open lines communication, telling each other their intent, and agreeing upon a liaison whether or not the other partner is included in the act. It takes someone who is pretty secure and deeply trusting to do this… Some Men love to date bisexual women and will encourage her to invite other women into the bedroom while he watches or participates.Gay men don’t want to have sex with Transwomen, clearly, because they’re feminine, regardless of genitals. There are more lesbians who would entertain a relationship with a Transwoman than there are Men who would.Straight men will sometimes have sexual encounters with Transwomen, but usually under circumstances of extreme discretion for fear of being classified as gay, and they most certainly would never entertain a relationship with a Transwoman or Transman. Women tend to be more sexually liberated and emotionally accessible.I’d find it more threatening if he were with someone else of the opposite sex; Another woman. There isn’t that sense of competition or paranoid comparison.”However, in all this crisscrossing of sex, sexuality, diversified relationships and gender roles, the vast majority of these people have a very firm “No Trans Policy.” Men will have sex with other Men, Women will have sex with other women, sometimes while single, sometimes while in relationships, but the exclusion of Transpeople is always a common theme.Then I’d find that problematic and get a little jealous, like, is she better at it than me? Bizarrely, it places Transgender men and women on the fringes of sexual society.