What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.Specifically, he’s checking to see if you’ll say that you feel the same way.The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?
the guy change his mind if you’re going to stick around regardless of whether or not you’re in an explicitly committed, exclusive relationship?
“Dropping the mask” is something I talk about extensively in the article link below…
After that guy determines that you really like him, he has you, and he’s no longer worried that he could lose you to another guy.
He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.