If you're someone who occasionally finds it hard to do the latter, well, join the club. At work, our responsibilities are ever-expanding (thanks, never-ending recession), and at home, we feel pressed to help stretched-thin friends and family.
"In this age of constant electronic connectedness, requests are coming at us every waking hour, making it even more important to be able to put your foot down," says Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph D, a clinical psychologist in Weston, Connecticut.
So being truthful is about being able to express how you feel about a situation.
But behaving in a helpful manner is quite a different story. Well I suppose it is easier to look at it from the opposite perspective and say what is not helpful.
Conflict certainly tests those boundaries and confrontation is never easy.
People are generally not aware of what they say or how they behave.
In a 2012 survey of employers by the job placement firm OI Partners, being a team player -- as in, flexible and helpful -- was the top-valued quality in an employee. A 2011 study found that couples who reported a high level of generosity in their relationship were five times more likely to say their marriage was very happy.
Also, being truthful can only be in relation to yourself.
You can’t be truthful about someone else’s experience.
There were many times I felt badly hurt and neglected and ignored. The whole new age movement is all for cutting people who don’t add to your happiness or success. Many life coaches, positive thinking representatives and personal growth guru’s are quite clear about how negative people drag you down. But yet there is that niggling at the back of my mind which has a problem with this approach. I believe that the people in my life are there for a reason.
Perhaps to teach me something about myself or for me to teach them something about themselves.