What I think Tinder does best, however, is stir the pot a little bit and makes it easier to start conversations.
You may think you’re a pro when it comes to online dating and your dating apps, but I think there’s always more to be learned. Think about it — aside from choosing profile pictures that best represent you, there’s what to say in your online dating profile. ’ There are a lot of very attractive, but undateable, people out there.”Yes, there are people who don’t write anything in the “bio” section.
While pictures are important — and maybe some people (okay, a lot) seem to swipe right based on pictures alone — words are, too. But you’ll actually save yourself time, frustration, and potentially disastrous messaging/dating later if you’ve taken the time to read their profile from the get-go. But several dating experts I spoke to recommend filling in the blanks.
Some think “a picture’s worth a thousand words,” but they do not always tell the whole story.“It can be so easy to just look at pictures on your dating app and swipe right,” Antonia Hall, psychologist, relationship expert, and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life, tells Bustle. Otherwise, you risk missing critical information like, ‘In an open relationship. I used to write people’s dating profiles, and I’m telling you — having one makes a huge difference, i.e., more well-suited matches.
(I’m also not sure any of those are untrue.) Why do I like Tinder so much? And it’s really easy to be so much cooler online, as Brad Paisley would say. So without any further ado, here is a little glimpse into the mind of one man on Tinder. Sure, there are some profiles that are little more than pictures of an attractive woman. And as much as I like looking at pictures of women, I prefer actually interacting with them on some sort of meaningful level. Sure, keep it light, but mention something you really care about, like helping your younger sister navigate the perils of high school. Think of women in your life you admire and think about how they might put their best foot forward. Channel your inner grandma and find a picture of you smiling or, even better, laughing.
Call me crazy, or shallow, or desperate all you want. The profiles that get my attention (in a good way) are those which make me actually like the woman represented. She really cares about people and has no problem showing it.
A little self-awareness here, a little mischief there, she’s unique yet perfectly genuine.What are guys looking for, when it really comes down to it?Beauty, mystery, happiness, and love—and not necessarily in that order.If he seems nice enough and nice looking enough, and has seemingly hidden all his red flags. Because here’s the other thing: I get nervous when I’m messaging a girl I really think I like.I say things I think are funny but probably aren’t.It’s very difficult for people sometimes to put themselves forward and try to make that first move.Tinder’s double opt-in makes the process of understanding whether another person is interested in you incredibly transparent and efficient.A man who is inordinately image-conscious, whose sense of humor skews a bit too much on the risque side, who seems to like to play the victim? Flashy and ostentatious might catch your attention, but well-rounded, well-grounded men are the ones who last.I’m no fisherman, and I’m sure there are plenty of jerks who also happen to fish, but I don't think they're related.04.By providing a bio, you are including information that matches can easily draw upon to get a conversation going.” — Tinder Sociologist Dr.Jess Carbino “Paint snapshots of your life rather than listing adjectives and your likes.