The filtering mechanisms on these dating sites similarly emphasize the importance age takes in the minds of young match-seekers, with all users asked to specify the age range they are seeking, with many choosing ridiculously narrow ranges (e.g. ) Adults over 55 are far more flexible in their approach to companionship.
Nobody likes the idea of spending years cooking for themselves and eating alone.Because no matter how old you get, one thing about human nature never changes: nobody likes feeling lonely.Older adults, however, look for companionship in a way that’s very different from their younger counterparts.Maybe it’s because the physical nature of attractiveness changes when you get older, or maybe they know that being “hot and sexy” is more a function of your personality than how you look.Whatever the reason, most older adults will tell you that how someone looks is doesn’t matter much in their search to find a companion. We are all living decades longer than we once did, and are staying fitter, healthier (and in some cases, friskier) further into our wisdom years than ever before.This means that there are more seniors and baby boomers than ever before looking for some companionship to fill the void of their prior partner. But as it turned out, the timing just wasn’t right for them as both were going through difficult times, so there was absolutely no spark.”Ms. Y., received a bachelor’s degree in theater arts from N. Though she found some work, she abandoned her dream in September 2013 when she returned home to be the primary caretaker for her mother, Herma Cunningham, who had cancer.“I thought Michael was a good-looking guy, but I was so distracted by my mother’s situation that when I got to the restaurant, I’m not even sure I shook his hand,” Ms. “I don’t think there was a paragraph of sentences spoken between us that night.”Mr. During his last semester at North Carolina, he completed a four-month graduate-level study-abroad program at the Stockholm School of Economics. Harris, who is also a chartered financial analyst, was single and working as a controller at a data center in Manhattan when he met Ms. “But I saw that a lot of my friends were getting married and having kids and they all started disappearing on me.“New York might be filled with eight million people, but for me, it felt more like I had become a part of a certain kind of crowded loneliness, and all of the glass half-empty things about New York really started getting on my nerves.”They moved on, but kept limited tabs on each other through Facebook and other social media platforms.“They are also very much grounded in their Christian faith, which is why I thought they would be perfect for each other,” said Barbara Augustin, the friend who set them up. Harris’s 75-year-old father, Herman Harris — were enjoying music while feasting on chicken and empanadas, black-eyed peas, plantains and macaroni and cheese. ”“Both Elizabeth and Michael are really gracious, hospitable and friendly people, each with a wacky sense of humor,” Ms. “They are also very much grounded in their Christian faith, which is why I thought they would be perfect for each other. and a master’s degree in acting at Columbia before heading to Los Angeles in June 2004, in the hope of becoming an actress. from the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill. Harris’s self-confidence, as he was in the middle of a midlife crisis.“In some respects of my life, I felt I had achieved what I wanted to achieve,” he said. They made their way up an iron staircase where the guests — including Mr. As he waited for her, the client for his first-ever investment banking deal called from Los Angeles. Cunningham arrived, creating an awkward situation where she was now waiting for him to get off the phone.“It’s too noisy in there,” he mouthed to her as he led her outside to the corner of Fifth Avenue and East 36th Street, where Ms. He was keeping my spirits up in the midnight hour, and I felt truly blessed.”It was during those late-night conversations that Mr. They visited Pikes Peak near Colorado Springs, but the peak was closed because of snow and ice, and they could only ascend to about 12,000 feet. When she said yes, he presented her with a diamond-encrusted heart-shaped silver necklace as a way of symbolizing that she now owned a part of his heart.“At that point in my life, I was in need of a certain level of softness, and Michael provided it,” Ms. “I came to realize that he is a loving guy with an amazing level of detail and thoughtfulness.”They soon embarked on a long-distance relationship. Cunningham suffered another emotional setback with the unexpected death of her father, Donovan Cunningham.“Losing both of my parents in the space of nine months was really devastating,” she said. Harris arrived early, but the noise inside the bar seemed like the wrong setting for a sober catch-up conversation that would include a dying mother. (There were times when he could hear her ailing mother, who was in pain, in the background.)“Michael became a gift of comfort,” Ms. “I had friends who prayed for me and asked God to send me some comfort during this rough time in my life, and until I met Michael, I didn’t know that comfort would come in the form of a man. “During the burial, he took my hand and my entire family was like, ‘What, who is this person? Harris, whose mother, Bertha Harris, died in 1998, said, “I grabbed Elizabeth’s hand because I had walked this same painful road before, and I know how difficult it is to cope with, so I wanted to share that pain with her.”A month after the funeral, Ms. Harris and his friends on a ski trip in Keystone, Colo. Cunningham with what he called a “proposal,” asking her to be his girlfriend.